Shame creeps in when we start connecting our surroundings to our worth. A messy kitchen becomes "I'm failing at being a mom." But clutter is just stuff in the wrong place, or too much stuff for the space it's in.

When you're decluttering and feeling stuck, ask yourself this one question that helps your decision get clear fast. It moves you past guilt or sunk cost, and centers your decision on the life you're living right now.